Updated: Dec 23, 2018
It is time to change the unfair stigma men have been given for 100’s of years that they are weak if they show emotion. Men deserve the luxury and have the right to release their emotions, to cry and still feel like a complete man.
I am writing this article as a tribute to men all around the world; to educate and instill the belief in their heart and soul that they are courageous when they allow their emotions to come forward and to be able to release them without fear or judgment.
I have been involved in energy healing since 2007 and am blessed to be a Focused Intention Technique Practitioner and workshop facilitator. I am elated and excited for anyone that comes to realize that they are worthy and are ready to begin their healing journey. We all have a blueprint in our brain when we are born which begins with peace, love, joy and happiness. As we grow up certain things we hear, traumas and/or bad experiences change our blueprint and we make negative decisions about ourselves, others and the world. This thought process is known as a limited belief.
I do feel discouraged for men who feel they are weak if they seek help. For years and years, men have had the stigma attached to them that they are weak or a wimp if they cry or show emotion. Limited beliefs cause us anxiety, fears, resentments, etc. and hold us back from achieving things we truly want. Limited beliefs stored in our subconscious hinder our lifes’ potential. The most common limited belief men have is that they are weak and unworthy if they are sensitive or show emotion. This limited belief has been passed down generation after generation and is, in fact, a limited belief in most of society. NOW IS the time to educate society that this idea is very wrong. Men have been taught to bury their emotions, therefore most men will have to learn how to feel. We all have the right to show our true feelings and still be the same, amazing person we have always been, emotions aside.
Women, who do not have this same limited belief, are blessed in society in more ways than one. They can cry for any reason, at any time, even for no reason and not be judged for it. We can dress pretty or dress like a tom boy; We can like other women and not be judged the same way men are. Woman can also choose a career in a male dominant workplace whereas men who choose a career in a woman dominant workforce are judged immediately. Society today has improved as far as judging men in the certain circumstances, but there still needs to be significant changes.
Both men and women feel the same emotions. Crying and letting emotions release is a gift from our body to help us heal. It is unfortunate that men do not feel that they have the luxury to allow emotions to release without feeling shame or to be ridiculed. For years men have had to resist their emotions and push them inside. Doing this repeatedly is toxic to the body and over time can cause disease. Men deserve to be true to themselves and know in their hearts it is okay to show emotion. I encourage all men to cry when they need to. Instill the unlimited belief in your heart that you are courageous and completely adequate as a man when releasing emotion. Crying and releasing emotion is very healing and after the release you will feel like a weight has been lifted.
Why is it also more acceptable for a depressed women to seek help than a depressed man?
Again, it is because of the limited belief that men should always be strong. We are however, initially all made up of the same cells, heart and souls but it is our limited beliefs that change the way we feel inside. If you are unhappy or depressed, respect and love yourself enough to realize that it is okay that you are feeling this way because you are human but also know that it is courageous for anyone to seek help and have every right and worth to do so. It should not matter what other people think. People who judge someone else are usually going through the same or similar feelings and are just portraying their inner self with their negativity and judgment. The moment someone tells you are weak or not good enough, is the moment you should realize they are saying these things only because they are filled with unhappiness. Don’t take their negativity personally simply send them wishes from your heart that they will learn to love and respect themselves one day.
I believe there will be less alcoholism and drug abuse in men as soon as they learn to love themselves, acknowledge their feelings and honor their emotions.
People form many different types of limited beliefs at different times in their lives. One of my limited beliefs was that I was not worthy of nice things which is a limited belief I formed when I was 6 years old. Our cells and heart centre hold all the memories and when using the FIT process our body will know the time we made a limited belief and release it. My belief transpired because of repeatedly hearing that money does not grow on trees; what do you need that for?; forget it, you don’t need that; that’s ridiculous, you don’t need that." These words were not just focused on me but different family members. This limited belief affected me in my life when I had nice things but I was unable to feel comfortable in my big house nor actually enjoy the nice things we had acquired. Until I did the FIT process I was unaware why I was not happy and felt uncomfortable with elaborate, non-esstential items.
Our body holds all our wisdom and truths. It is ready at any time to be awakened and renewed. Healing is an amazing gift you can give yourself at any time. You are the only one that can start the transformation from feeling unhappy, fearful, depressed, anxious, resentful, etc. to feeling joy, peace, gratitude, happiness & unconditional love for yourself and others. Healing takes courage and if you are feeling uncomfortable thinking about starting the healing process, know that stepping out of your comfort zone and taking the change you deserve is beginning, not an ending. Don’t fear change, CHANGE FEAR. The right time is now. Learning to love yourself and respect yourself may be the hardest thing you do in your life but will certainly be the most rewarding experience you can imagine.
F-E-A-R has two meanings: Forget everything and run or Face Everything and Rise. The Choice is Yours.
"Courage is feeling the fear and doing it anyway" – Oprah Winphrey
No matter where you are today and no matter what situation you are in at any time, respect yourself; love yourself; release shame; do not regret the past just learn from it; instill the knowingness in your heart that you are worthy of all good things and can accomplish anything in life; Love Yourself; Believe in yourself; Don’t let the opinion of others change your inner self as their opinions are a reflection of their own inner turmoil. Do what makes you happy and never apologize to anyone for being you. Inspire yourself with the knowingness that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle, to realize that life begins where fear ends, know you are Amazing.
"Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. So, if you are feeling uncomfortable right now, know that the change taking place in your life is a beginning, not an ending"-Neale Donald Walsch.